The Hardest Things About Being A Non-Custodial Mother

The Hardest Things About Being A Non-Custodial Mother

It’s not the long drives and miles put on my car. It’s not frustrated family members who suffer through broken communication with my ex. It’s not even my other children whining that they miss their brother, or asking when he’ll be back, or wanting to call him during the day when he’s at school.


It’s something so much more shattering than all of this.

7 Myths About Healing After Birth

7 Myths About Healing After Birth

The knowledge of what happens during the first few weeks and months after birth is going through a bit of a renaissance right now (thank goodness), but that doesn’t mean we all know what the hell is going to happen, or that certain myths and misconceptions don’t persist. Let’s be real- postpartum healing can be mystifying, confusing, and even troubling, so it’s easy to default back to our culture’s groupthink about what it should be like.

The Top 3 Resources You Need for Postpartum Success

The Top 3 Resources You Need for Postpartum Success

I wish I could say there are a ton of resources out there to support you postpartum, and that I’m farming them to supply you with the best ones here, but I’m not. Compared to birth and pregnancy information out there in the world, it is difficult (or at least it has been) to find equally as focused, comprehensive information that is devoted to postpartum healing. So in an effort to help you get the most out of what is available, I’m listing what I think is truly indispensable.

How to Rock a Solid Relationship After Birth

How to Rock a Solid Relationship After Birth

In such a vulnerable time when nerves are often jangled, nobody’s getting much sleep, and you’re all trying to adjust into new roles, things can get messy. So to avoid miscommunication, hurt feelings, and resentment- and to actually enjoy this time and help your partner feel like they are rocking their new role- consider the following suggestions.

Unattachment as Survival While the World Burns

Unattachment as Survival While the World Burns

This is the paradox- opening enough so that we’re not letting the violence take up all the space in us, staying awake enough to feel what the root of the hunger and pain is, and getting clear and grounded enough to not waver when our surroundings tell us otherwise, when the men around us disappoint, when we feel rocked out of place by the harmful shit playing out.