The knowledge of what happens during the first few weeks and months after birth is going through a bit of a renaissance right now (thank goodness), but that doesn’t mean we all know what the hell is going to happen, or that certain myths and misconceptions don’t persist. Let’s be real- postpartum healing can be mystifying, confusing, and even troubling, so it’s easy to default back to our culture’s groupthink about what it should be like.
I wish I could say there are a ton of resources out there to support you postpartum, and that I’m farming them to supply you with the best ones here, but I’m not. Compared to birth and pregnancy information out there in the world, it is difficult (or at least it has been) to find equally as focused, comprehensive information that is devoted to postpartum healing. So in an effort to help you get the most out of what is available, I’m listing what I think is truly indispensable.
In such a vulnerable time when nerves are often jangled, nobody’s getting much sleep, and you’re all trying to adjust into new roles, things can get messy. So to avoid miscommunication, hurt feelings, and resentment- and to actually enjoy this time and help your partner feel like they are rocking their new role- consider the following suggestions.